a joke is a special kind of lie you tell when you trust your audience
this is part of why asshole men don't believe women are funny. because they don't fucking calm down around women enough to create that space where jokes happen
i did not invent this idea, i don't remember who posted it, i think it was someone on here? but it makes a lot of sense to me
im sorry in being a comedy nerd here
@diffractie @triz a trusted friend saying something offensive in a way you're both comfortable with can really strengthen your relationship too- they trust you enough to make the joke to you, you understand that trust